DRAFT: Parlour Series: Loneliness and Community
About the event
Parlour series events are hosted in members' homes, so they work a little differently from our public events. The group size will be smaller, so we give preference to people who have recently attended another event. If you're interested in joining, please add yourself to the waitlist! The address will be posted as a private comment below, visible only to attendees. It is near the location pin that is visible publicly. Also, the hosts have a few fluffy felines!
Let’s consider:
• What is loneliness? How is it different from being alone, and can a person feel lonely while surrounded by others? • Is loneliness mainly a private experience, or is it also a sign of something wrong with the communities and institutions around us? • Many societies have seen people join fewer clubs, congregations, unions, and civic groups over recent decades. What has replaced those forms of belonging, if anything, and do the replacements meet the same needs? • How has technology affected loneliness? Do online networks create real community, or do they substitute contact for connection? • Some argue that declining participation reflects greater freedom, since people can choose their relationships rather than inherit them. Others argue it has left people isolated and less able to trust one another. Which account do you find more persuasive? • What is the relationship between loneliness and trust, in neighbours, in strangers, and in public institutions? Does one tend to cause the other? • Is rebuilding community something individuals can do through their own choices, or does it require changes in work, housing, cities, or public policy? • Do we have an obligation to participate in community life, even when we would rather not? What would be lost if more people opted out entirely?
No homework required, but if you’d like to reflect ahead of time, you can listen to this podcast episode:
• NYT The Interview: Robert Putnam Knows Why You’re Lonely • The author of “Bowling Alone” warned us about social isolation and its effect on democracy a quarter century ago. Things have only gotten worse since then. • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sqZ4Po4vMAQ
Shy Philosopher Night Procedure and Code of Ethics: 1. Discussion Style We aim for a cooperative flow, like passing a ball among teammates rather than engaging in back-and-forth debates. Please share the “ball” so everyone has a voice. 2. Brief Points (2-3 Minutes) Keep points concise so we can hear a variety of perspectives. Occasional exceptions may come up naturally, but our goal is inclusivity. 3. No Crosstalk Respect the speaker’s time without interjecting or questioning mid-speech. If you’d like to add something, simply raise your hand and the facilitator will guide the flow. 4. Avoid Ad Hominem Remarks Focus critiques on ideas, actions, or beliefs—not people. For example, say “This idea could have certain impacts” rather than “You’re wrong.” This ensures a respectful environment. 5. Respectful Engagement As we are guests in someone’s home, let’s maintain a high level of respect for the space and one another. Mindfulness, patience, and courtesy are essential to making this gathering comfortable and enjoyable for all. 6. Cancellation Courtesy If your plans change and you’re unable to attend, please let us know at least a day in advance by canceling your RSVP. Since space is limited, early notice helps ensure that someone else interested can join in your place. We really appreciate your understanding and help in making this a smooth, inclusive experience for everyone.
Looking forward to seeing you there!
